Let's talk about talking -- Can we talk? : why we wrote this book -- Relational lifeblood : why communication is vital to your love life -- Communication 101 : brushing up on the basics -- The foundation of every great conversation : uncovering your fear factor -- How you say the things you do -- How do you tackle problems? aggressively or passively -- How do you influence each other? with feelings or facts -- How do you react to change? with resistance or acceptance -- How do you make decisions? cautiously or spontaneously -- Your unique talk style : taking the love talk indicator -- Enjoying love talk -- Talking a fine line : the secret to emotional connection -- Men analyze, women sympathize : now it makes sense -- Listening with the third ear : can you hear me now? -- When not to talk : the paradox of every relationship -- Let's talk love : the most important conversation you'll ever have.