Why we want to love: The satisfaction of a loving life -- The seven secrets to love: Kindness: discovering the joy of helping others; Patience: accepting the imperfections of others; Forgiveness: finding freedom from the grip of anger; Courtesy: treating others as friends; Humility: stepping down so someone else can step up; Generosity: giving yourself to others; Honesty: revealing who you really are -- Making love a way of life: in marriage; parenting; in the workplace; The motivation to love -- Readers' guide.