"A journalist's searing investigation into how we teach boys to be men--and how we can do better"-- Brown who was at home with her newborn son when the #MeToo movement erupted. Traveling around the country, interviewing hundreds of people, she wanted to understand the challenges boys face and how to address them. She discovered that 23 percent of boys believe men should use violence to get respect; 22 percent of an incoming college freshman class said they had already committed sexual violence; 58 percent of young adults said they have never had a conversation with their parents about respect and care in sexual relationships. Here Brown exposes the crisis in young men's emotional and physical health... and in doing so upends everything we thought we knew about boys. -- adapted from jacket Provided by publisher.

Prologue -- What we don't see: the invisible epidemic of sexual assault against boys -- Boys will be men: nature, nurture, and rethinking boyhood -- The sex ed crisis: why silence about sex is dangerous for kids -- Shaping young minds: how schools are failing young children -- The problem with "consent": lessons from Grace, Aziz Ansari's accuser -- Racism, violence, trauma: how close relationships can help boys cope -- Why Harry needs Sally: how all-boys schools are trying to stay relevant -- Boy-friends: the power of male friendship to create a new culture -- Epilogue. Prologue -- What we don't see: the invisible epidemic of sexual assault against boys. Why boys don't ask for help (or, "Don't be a pussy!") ; The culture of sport ; Sexual assault is not "horseplay" ; The myths about boys we still believe ; Why men's stories matter ; A town hurts -- Boys will be men: nature, nurture, and rethinking boyhood. Hormones, brains, and how parents treat boys differently, without even realizing it ; How to help boys succeed ; The man box and men's health ; Fostering boys' emotional literacy ; How fathers build the man box, or tear it down ; Why your own relationship matters ; Signs of change -- The sex ed crisis: why silence about sex is dangerous for kids. How to start the conversation ; Sexting: translating offline etiquette to online life ; Why boys should practice masturbating without porn ; Teaching sexual citizenship in schools ; The problem with abstinence-only education ; The new sex ed: porn literacy -- Shaping young minds: how schools are failing young children. The problem with ignoring sexual violence in school ; The problem with punishment ; The case of John Doe 2 ; The potential for another way: restorative justice -- The problem with "consent": lessons from Grace, Aziz Ansari's accuser. "No" is not always spelled "N-O" ; A blow job is not consent ; Learning to handle rejection ; What we can (and can't) blame on alcohol ; Signs of change -- Racism, violence, trauma: how close relationships can help boys cope. Race, racism, and black boys in America ; How trauma is linked to violence ; "We can't police our way out of this" ; "I still deal with the pain every day" ; How gun violence and domestic violence are intertwined ; "It makes you feel like you have someone" -- Why Harry needs Sally: how all-boys schools are trying to stay relevant. "I lost out on the ability to relate to girls": single-sex ed and social skills ; Changing culture on all-boys schools ; How to talk to boys ; What to look for in a boys' school -- Boy-friends: the power of male friendship to create a new culture. The roots of sexual harassment ; Harnessing the power of sports ; The promise of social-emotional learning in school ; Teaching boys they have a gender, too ; Teaching boys to see themselves as change agents ; Boys leading boys -- Epilogue.