Christian and Helen Bohlen's mental illnesses nearly destroyed their marriage, but they found a way to have a happy relationship after all. They detail their struggles in this invaluable resource for couples coping with mental, emotional, and/or addiction issues. When Christian married Helen, he dreamed of "doing great things with a loving companion at [his] side." The reality hardly matched his dreams. Doctors diagnosed Helen with "borderline personality disorder (BPD) and bipolar disorder." Her nonsensical outbursts, hours-long tirades, and despondent episodes hijacked the couple's life every few days. Christian, who suffers from bipolar II disorder, knew he had to find a way to protect himself and care for the woman he loved, and sought help through prayer, Bible study, proper medications, therapy, and patience. Happily married after 35 years, the Bohlens view their "gut-wrenching experiences" as God's tools for making them both more "Christlike" and hope to encourage others to seek God first in their marriage decisions. This well-written, insightful book is primarily intended for readers whose spouses suffer from mental illness.

A new destination -- Introduction -- I'm so confused -- How can I start feeling like myself again? -- I'm starting to doubt myself and my faith -- Can I survive this? -- It's not fair -- My needs are not being met -- I'm totally drained and afraid -- My spouse is walking all over me! -- I can't plan anything! -- My heart breaks for my spouse -- My hopes for my life are unraveling -- Joyful after all.