"Every parent is capable of raising happy, healthy, and emotionally grounded children. Despite this, too many of us struggle along the journey. From the fast-changing realities of social media to the fear that permeates our culture, to the generational expectations that are unconsciously placed on children, the pressures on parents and children have reached a critical moment. We feel it and our children feel it. But there is a solution. With over two decades experience working directly with parents, acclaimed clinical psychologist and bestselling author Dr. Shefali offers a profoundly practical and groundbreaking parenting solution that helps parents actualize their deepest desires for their children. This step-by-step guide disrupts toxic inherited patterns and replaces them with authentic connections that allow us to see and respond to our children for who they are and who they can become." -- inside front jacket flap. With over two decades experience working directly with parents, acclaimed clinical psychologist and bestselling author Dr. Shefali offers a profoundly practical and groundbreaking parenting solution that helps parents actualize their deepest desires for their children. This step-by-step guide disrupts toxic inherited patterns and replaces them with authentic connections that allow us to see and respond to our children for who they are and who they can become.

Includes index.

Stage one: from frustration to clarity. Focus on the right problem ; Destroy the fantasy ; Relinquish control! ; End the chase for happiness and success ; Dump the savior complex ; Discard labels -- Stage two: from dysfunctional patterns to conscious choice. Discover your two I's ; Catch your ego ; Face your triggers ; Break your dysfunctional loops ; Activate your third I -- Stage three: from conflict to connection. Learn kidpsych ; Spot your kid's ego ; Master kidspeak ; Instead of punishment, do this ; Reframe mistakes this way ; Drop to the heart ; Find the yes! ; Start right now ; Embrace a new you.