"Healing and thriving after or even during a narcissistic relationship can be challenging, but it is possible. It's Not You shows that the first step is to stop trying to change the narcissistic person, stop blaming yourself, and start giving yourself permission to foster your autonomy and sense of self outside of this relationship"-- Provided by publisher.

Preface -- Introduction: How did we get here? -- Part I: the narcissistic relationship. Clarifying narcissism -- Death by a thousand cuts : the narcissistic relationship -- The fallout : the impact of narcissistic abuse -- Part II: Recognition, recovery, healing, and growth. Understand your backstory -- Embrace radical acceptance -- Grief and healing from -- Narcissistic relationships -- Become more narcissist resistant -- Heal and grow when you stay -- Rewrite your story -- Conclusion.