Foreword / by Sharon Slater, Psy. D., Clinical Psychologist -- Acknowledgments -- Author's note -- Love : what you need to know -- Do you share the same basic goals and values? -- Are you relating to the person you are dating, or to an image? -- Can you admit that the person you are dating has faults? : are you realistic about your own faults? -- Does your relationship have healthy boundaries? -- What do people you are close to have to say about the person you are dating? -- Do you respect the person you are dating? : is there mutual respect? -- Can you be open and honest with the person you are dating? : do you trust him or her? -- How well do you get along with the person you are dating? : how is your -- Communication? -- Does the person you are dating bring out the best in you? -- If the person you are dating never changes, would you still want to get married? -- The case for marriage -- Afterword: if you've already been married once -- About the author.