Motherhood and mourning: the power to heal -- Pregnancy: time to prepare -- Labor and delivery: crossing the threshold -- Postpartum: the first six weeks -- Getting attached: mother-child bonding -- Zero to four: raising babies, toddlers, and preschoolers -- The absent grandmother: filling the void -- The grandma in heaven: explaining death to kids -- Protective parenting: keeping everyone safe -- Five to twelve: the school-age years -- The drive to survive: keeping yourself safe -- It's about the child: keeping the focus clear -- Raising teenagers: the zone of the unknown.