Parenting is not about kids, it's about parents -- If you're not under control, then you cannot be in charge -- Growing up is hard to do, especially for grown-ups -- Begin with the end in mind, but let go of the final results -- Kids need their room -- Resistance is futile : practice judo parenting -- You are not a prophet (and neither is grandma) -- Parents set the table by setting the tone (and vice versa) -- Let the consequences do the screaming -- Empty threats are really broken promises -- Put on your own oxygen mask first -- Revolutionary relationships.