Those who have never experienced an abusive or violent relationship often believe that upon finding her way out, a victim's difficulties are solved: her life is good, she is safe, and her recovery will be swift. Survivors know that leaving is not the end of the nightmare, it is the beginning of a difficult journey toward healing and happiness. This book offers readers the practical guidance, emotional reassurance, and psychological awareness that female survivors of relationship abuse and domestic violence need to heal and reclaim their lives after leaving their abusers. It is a working manual for women who are starting their lives over after an abusive relationship, combining guidance on practical and emotional issues with worksheets and self-exploration exercises. In the second edition, the authors include updated information and resources while encompassing a wider range of individuals.

Previous ed.: 2000. Includes index.

Were you in an abusive relationship? -- Are you out of danger now? -- How could this have happened? -- The hidden horror : sexual abuse -- How could you have loved an abuser? -- Abuse of men by women, and abuse in gay, lesbian, and transgender relationships -- Losing your partner, your dream, your life -- When feelings overwhelm you -- Signs of unfinished healing -- What about the children? -- The reactions of others -- Practical considerations -- Beginning to heal -- Believing in yourself -- The temptation to go back -- Is your abuser still in your life? -- Loving again.