Preparing yourself -- Understanding borderline and narcissistic personalities -- Blamers and targets : it's all your fault! -- Managing a blamer with an assertive approach -- Preparing for a court battle with a blamer -- Today's divorce court culture -- Hiring a lawyer who understands -- Working with your lawyer to handle predictable crises -- Gathering evidence about your blamer's private persona -- Working with experts and evaluators -- What to expect from the blamer's attorney -- What to expect at a hearing or trial with a blamer -- Considering alternatives to litigation with a blamer -- Managing the rocky postdivorce relationship -- Conclusion.